The most important thing to teach your child is responsibility. Discuss how to make decisions and understand what the consequences of those decisions will be.
You can start by discussing decisions and consequences that don’t involve sex, and then move the conversation toward sexuality. After all, there are consequences to having sex or not having sex, and every child is going to get a lot of misinformation along the way from their peers and the media. So before they get that information, Let them hear it from you their parents.
After all, however adult their appearance, behavior, and attitudes may appear, adolescents remain closer to childhood than adulthood and children need ongoing parental guidance to prepare for adulthood. I know it’s a lot of work, but parents need to monitor what their children see and be there available to them to provide some context.
Find out what’s in the movie, what’s in the program, what’s on that Internet site before you let your child see or hear. And experience with him or her together, so you can discuss it and use it to build trust between you and your child. Otherwise keep in mind that when you don’t give your child this information, There will be someone out there ready to offer the information however your child has to pay dearly.
LET YOUR CHILD BE A CHILD.
Adolescence can be tough enough to get through without questions of sex, sexuality, and sexual identity. But adolescents are humans too and no matter how different they may seem to their parents at times. Openly addressing the all-too-human questions of sexual development, sexual desire, and the nature of the adolescent’s developing sexual identity are critical. Sharing factual information with and giving good moral guidance to your teenager is a vitally important part of helping your teen understand herself or himself. It can help your child avoid devastating, and possibly life-threatening, errors in judgment.
It is always very easy to tell girls, ‘Be strong, you are beautiful, you are capable, don’t do this, do that, don’t worry about that, etc. What is missing is
the idea of instilling worth. How do we raise a girl to feel she is worthy — worthy of good friends, worthy of healthy relationships, worthy of speaking in public and of being heard, worthy of her dreams, worthy of trying something nobody else has done?
If someone doesn’t feel worthy, they might do something they don’t really want to do, because they don’t have the courage
or strength to say so. They may be coming from a place of fear rather than a place of personal love, respect and power.
Teach girls that they are valuable and have a voice, by giving them information and tools to use. When girls feel confident about their bodies, their intelligence, their worthiness and their sexuality, they have the opportunity to go into the world and fully express themselves — AS GIRLS WITH CONFIDENCE
Imagine an Africa where a woman’s hand hoe is a thing of the past.
Imagine women with tools that increase agricultural yield and income
while decreasing the labor and time required to ensure food security and promote economic empowerment.
Imagine an Africa that could harness the freed time and energy,
goodwill and smartness of millions of women thanks to the technology now available.
Empowering women to participate fully in economic life
across all sectors is essential to build stronger economies.
Women and Girls have the potential to change this world for the better.
They can achieve internationally agreed goals for development and sustainability
and improve the quality of life for fellow women, men, families and communities.
At least make it interesting
Dyslexic children might not like the reading process
but they can really like the content.
Finding passages that relate to the child’s interests
can make the experience more enjoyable
The average child spends a tremendous amount of time mastering how to read and write.
If a child has learning challenges, this time can become associated with struggle and defeat.
It is critical that you find alternative ways for this child to experience success.
Be attentive and aware; seek out the child’s strengths and magnify them.
Keep in mind that a child may look to you as a barometer of their overall worth.
Remember that a child’s strength may not always be a traditional strength like sports.
It may be more unique, such as Lego construction or being a good friend to others.
It has been my experience that children want
straight answers to what is happening with them and why.
Educate yourself on dyslexia, and then share what you have learned with the child.
If a child is left to his or her own devices to figure out what is wrong, the chances are what he or she comes up with will be worse than what is actually happening.
In the class:
- Of value to all children in the class is an outline of what is going to be taught in the lesson, ending the lesson with a resume of what has been taught. In this way information is more likely to go from short term memory to long term memory.
- When homework is set, it is important to check that the child correctly writes down exactly what is required. Try to ensure that the appropriate worksheets and books are with the child to take home.
- In the front of the pupils’ homework book get them to write down the telephone numbers of a couple of friends. Then, if there is any doubt over homework, they can ring up and check, rather than worry or spend time doing the wrong work.
- Make sure that messages and day to day classroom activities are written down, and never sent verbally. i.e. music, P. E. swimming etc.
- Make a daily check list for the pupil to refer to each evening. Encourage a daily routine to help develop the child’s own self-reliance and responsibilities.
- Encourage good organizational skills by the use of folders and dividers to keep work easily accessible and in an orderly fashion.
- Break tasks down into small easily remembered pieces of information.
- If visual memory is poor, copying must be kept to a minimum. Notes or handouts are far more useful.
- Seat the child fairly near the class teacher so that the teacher is available to help if necessary, or he can be supported by a well-motivated and sympathetic classmate.
Copying from the blackboard:
- Use different colour chalks for each line if there is a lot of written information on the board, or underline every second line with a different coloured chalk.
- Ensure that the writing is well spaced.
- Leave the writing on the blackboard long enough to ensure the child doesn’t rush, or that the work is not erased from the board before the child has finished copying.
- A structured reading scheme that involves repetition and introduces new words slowly is extremely important. This allows the child to develop confidence and self esteem when reading.
- Don’t ask pupils to read a book at a level beyond their current skills, this will instantly demotivate them. Motivation is far better when demands are not too high, and the child can actually enjoy the book. If he has to labour over every word he will forget the meaning of what he is reading.
- Save the dyslexic child the ordeal of having to ‘read aloud in class’. Reserve this for a quiet time with the class teacher. Alternatively, perhaps give the child advanced time to read pre-selected reading material, to be practiced at home the day before. This will help ensure that the child is seen to be able to read out loud, along with other children
- Real books should also be available for paired reading with an adult, which will often generate enthusiasm for books. Story tapes can be of great benefit for the enjoyment and enhancement of vocabulary. No child should be denied the pleasure of gaining access to the meaning of print even if he cannot decode it fully.
- Remember reading should be fun.
- Many of the normal classroom techniques used to teach spellings do not help the dyslexic child. All pupils in the class can benefit from structured and systematic exposure to rules and patterns that underpin a language.
- Spelling rules can be given to the whole class. Words for class spelling tests are often topic based rather than grouped for structure. If there are one or two dyslexics in the class, a short list of structure-based words for their weekly spelling test, will be far more helpful than random words. Three or four irregular words can be included each week, eventually this should be seen to improve their free-writing skills.
- All children should be encouraged to proof read, which can be useful for initial correction of spellings. Dyslexics seem to be unable to correct their spellings spontaneously as they write, but they can be trained to look out for errors that are particular to them.
- Remember, poor spelling is not an indication of low intelligence.
- Maths has its own language, and this can be the root of many problems. Whilst some dyslexic students are good at maths, it has been estimated that around 90% of dyslexic children have problems in at least some areas of maths. General mathematical terminology words need to be clearly understood before they can be used in calculations, e.g. add, plus, sum of, increase and total, all describe a single mathematical process. Other related difficulties could be with visual/perceptual skills, directional confusion, sequencing, word skills and memory. Dyslexic students may have special difficulties with aspects of maths that require many steps or place a heavy load on the short-term memory, e.g. long division or algebra.
- The value of learning the skills of estimation cannot be too strongly stressed for the dyslexic child. Use and encourage the use of estimation. The child should be taught to form the habit of checking his answers against the question when he has finished the calculation, i.e. is the answer possible, sensible or ludicrous?
- When using mental arithmetic allow the dyslexic child to jot down the key number and the appropriate mathematical sign from the question.
- Encourage pupils to verbalize and to talk their way through each step of the problem. Many children find this very helpful.
- Teach the pupil how to use the times table square and encourage him to say his workings out as he uses it.
- Encourage a dyslexic child to use a calculator. Make sure he fully understand how to use it. Ensure that he has been taught to estimate to check his calculations. This is a way of ‘proof reading’ what he does.
- Put key words on a card index system or on the inside cover of the pupils maths book so it can be used for reference and revision.
- Rehearse mathematical vocabulary constantly, using multi sensory/kinesthetic methods.
- Put the decimal point in red ink. It helps visual perception with the dyslexic child.
- Reasons for poor handwriting at any age can be poor motor control, tension, badly formed letters, speed etc. A cursive joined style is most helpful to children with dyslexic problems. Encourage the children to study their writing and be self-critical. Get them to decide for themselves where faults lie and what improvements can be made, so that no resentment is built up at yet another person complaining about their written work.
- Discuss the advantages of good handwriting and the goals to be achieved with the class. Analyze common faults in writing, by writing a few well chosen words on the board for class comment.
- Make sure a small reference chart is available to serve as a constant reminder for the cursive script in upper and lower case.
- If handwriting practice is needed it is essential to use words that present no problem to the dyslexic child in terms of meaning or spelling.
- Improvement in handwriting skills can improve self confidence, which in turn reflects favorably throughout a pupil’s work.
Marking of work:
- Credit for effort as well as achievement are both essential. This gives the pupil a better chance of getting a balanced mark. Creative writing should be marked on context.
- Spelling mistakes pinpointed should be those appropriate to the child’s level of spelling. Marking should be done in pencil and have positive comments.
- Try not to use red pens to mark the dyslexic child’s work. There’s nothing more disheartening for the child than to have work returned covered in red ink, when they’ve inevitably tried harder than their peers to produce the work.
- Only ask a pupil to rewrite a piece of work that is going to be displayed. Rewriting pages for no reason at all is soul destroying as usually much effort will have already been put into the original piece of work.
- By the end of a school day a dyslexic child is generally more tired than his peers because everything requires more thought, tasks take longer and nothing comes easily. More errors are likely to be made. Only set homework that will be of real benefit to the child.
- In allocating homework and exercises that may be a little different or less demanding, it is important to use tact. Self-esteem is rapidly undermined if a teacher is underlining the differences between those with difficulties and their peers. However, it should also be remembered that far more effort may be needed for a dyslexic child to complete the assignment than for their peers.
- Set a limit on time spent on homework, as often a dyslexic child will take a lot longer to produce the same work that another child with good literacy skills may produce easily.
In order to be able to teach, as far as possible, according to each child’s educational needs, it is essential to see him or her as a whole person, complete with individual strengths and weaknesses.
An understanding of the pupil’s specific difficulties, and how they may affect the student’s classroom performance, can enable the teacher to adopt teaching methods and strategies to help the dyslexic child to be successfully integrated into the classroom environment.
Proficient reading is an essential tool for learning a large part of the subject matter taught at school. With an ever increasing emphasis on education and literacy, more and more children and adults are needing help in learning to read, spell, express their thoughts on paper and acquire adequate use of grammar.
A dyslexic child who finds the acquisition of these literacy skills difficult can also suffer a lot of anguish and trauma when they may feel mentally abused by their peers within the school environment, because they have a learning difficulty. Much can be done to alleviate this by integrating the child into the class environment where he/she can feel comfortable and develop confidence and self esteem.
Class teachers may be particularly confused by the student whose consistent underachievement seems due to what may look like carelessness or lack of effort.
These children can be made to feel very different from their peers simply because they may be unable to follow simple instructions, which for others seem easy. It is a class teacher’s responsibility to provide an atmosphere conducive to learning for all pupils within their class.
Class teachers need to have an understanding of the problems that the dyslexic child may have within the classroom situation. Hopefully, with this knowledge, a great deal of misunderstanding of a child’s behaviour can be prevented. In a positive and encouraging environment, a dyslexic child will experience the feeling of success and self-value.